4 ways to master the art of being completely unbothered.

Hey Gorgeous! Welcome or welcome back to my blog my name is Sarah Yinka and today I will be talking about how to master the art of being un fu*king bothered.

Most of my life I have had anxiety and depression and if you have anxiety, you know that being unbothered is literally foreign to us.

We literally worry about every single detail even when it doesn’t concern us. During quarantine, I decided that I wanted to learn how to be completely unbothered.

(I actually went on a whole mental and physical self-reevaluation and changed a lot of things about myself that I didn’t like since I had the spare time……. but we’ll talk about that in a different post)

I wanted to learn how to stop caring what other people had to say about me and stop worrying about things that I cannot control

and I truly feel that I have come up with the best tips that you can follow to help you become unbothered so if you’re ready, let’s begin….

1, Become your biggest Priority.

Now because I love you guys and I want the what’s best for you, I’m going to give you the hard truth.

 If you have time to be caring about what other people say or how the feel about you, it’s time you pick up a hobby because you have way too much time on your hands.

I know that sounds mean but have you ever been in a situation where you’ve been so busy to the point where nothing else but what you were working on was important?

Someone could call you on the phone and say some bull**it but you were way too busy to even focus on that.

That is exactly what I mean, when you are too worried about getting your money up, focusing on school, starting that new business, getting your body right etc. You don’t have time for it and are not willing to give any of your energy to it period.

In life, the only things that we can control are what we choose to believe, feel and think and our own actions and decisions……that’s it.

So, it’s time to ask yourself the question,

• what aren’t getting closer to your goals?
• why do you have so much time on your hands?
• why haven’t you started that business or hobby?
• why haven’t you started getting fit?
• why are you so flipping worried about what they’re doing?

When you become so involved in bettering yourself what other people are doing is not going to concern you.

No matter what they say or what they do. You are just too busy on becoming the best and version of you (as you should…).

2, Stop being a People pleaser.

 

One of the biggest ways to become fully unbothered in my opinion is to stop trying to please everyone. Trust me, it is a waste of your valuable time.

Every single person in the entire earth is different, no two people are the same. So when you try and please everyone, how is that even physically possible? I mean think about it….

Everyone’s going to have a different opinion about you no matter what you do. Even if you’re the nicest, quietest and caring person in the entire world, someone’s gonna think you’re stuck up or fake or weird so What’s the point?

Listen I know the feeling of wanting to impress someone so bad and wanting to fit in and make them like you but if you’re in a situation where you have to alter yourself for someone to even take interest in you…… Um sis, it’s not for you.

When you know exactly who you are and accept you for being you. if someone is trying to mess up your energy or change who you are, you will gladly walk away with your head held high because if they’re not comfortable with you as you then they never will be.

3, Let it go.

 

Sometimes just let it go. Not every rude comment or remark needs a reply, sometimes just ignore it and move on.

The more you do it the more you get used to it. In fact, you’ll get so used to it to a point where the minute they say it you just forget it.

Sometimes people are just hurting and when they are hurting, they hurt other people. So, what they said to you probably just came out of a bad place within them.

So, don’t give them your attention, don’t give them the power to bring you down to you their level. You’re better than that. I know it!

4, Stop trying to fix and help everyone.

When you’re really bothered about something, it’s because you care. Listen, you cannot fix everyone and everything because you can’t control everyone and everything.

As I said before, you can only control what you do not what others do. It’s good to remind yourself that sometimes.

This step will really help you to reach your full potential in life. When you step back and say to yourself that “I can’t fix this person, they need to do it themselves and I’ll focus on myself” It will honestly help.

There you have it! those are my main tips for how to become completely unbothered in life. I don’t believe that being unbothered means you don’t care.

I just think it means that you’re focused on other things that involve you because you are your most important asset.

I really hope these tips helped you and please try these tips out and tell me if they did.

If you have any more suggestions don’t be shy to put it in the comment section below. You could really help someone.

I hope you guys have a great day or night because you deserve it and I’ll see you soon.

I love you!

xoxo,

Sarah

&n